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Pregnancy #3

I didn’t realize people would find this interesting, but a few of you requested my pregnancy story for Rachel. So here it is.

I was sick before I realized I was pregnant. It was a convenient form of morning sickness—sweets were repulsive. Veggies and fruits were all I could eat. (Got over that pretty quickly, though.) And if I ate, the morning sickness obeyed and I felt okay.

I found out I was pregnant the week of my mother’s birthday. I decided to save the surprise for that day, Saturday. I called my parents’ house, but no one answered. I called my mom’s cell phone. No answer. I figured my dad was out, so I called my youngest sister, who still lived at home. She didn’t answer, but my next youngest sister texted me back.

Dad’s in the hospital. He passed out this morning. We’re waiting to hear what’s wrong.

It took most of the day to find out what had happened and that my dad was mostly okay (he made a full recovery and is fine now). I finally tracked down a phone number for his room and called him. I was planning to tell my mother first, but she wasn’t there, so I told my dad. I called my mom at home next and told her, then my sisters. We needed the good news that day.

It was just the beginning of hospital visits for this pregnancy.

Rachel on 21 April 2010, with some glare

Since my last OB passed away a year before this, I changed doctors. At my first visit, they performed an ultrasound—the baby wasn’t due in mid-May as I’d calculated: the baby was due June 9. It should be illegal to prolong a pregnancy three weeks, especially in the midst of morning sickness!

two of my sisters came into town from out of state to surprise me for my birthdayMy new doctor didn’t have a blood lab on site, so I had to go to the hospital for the routine blood tests, including the quad screen. I visited my parents for Christmas. While I was there, I got a call from my doctor. We played a few rounds of phone tag, and the nurses said the doctor wanted to talk to me himself.

Which, of course, means something is wrong.

And it was and it wasn’t. The baby had an elevated risk of Down syndrome. It was a week before I came home and visited with the doctor. I spent that week trying not to worry (because worrying wouldn’t change anything, right?) It turned out that “elevated risk” meant a 1 in 132 chance. Less than one percent. And this test is notorious for false positives.

But we went to the appointment with the perinatologist (at the hospital. Again.) anyway. They didn’t see any signs of Down syndrome in the baby, but they discovered something else—instead of the normal three blood vessels in the umbilical cord, the baby only had two blood vessels.

Then, of course, they laid out all the risks and had to act as if the worst was happening. A two-vessel cord (single umbilical artery or SUA) is correlated with chromosomal defects. Down syndrome is a chromosomal defect. Therefore, we couldn’t rule out Down syndrome without amniocentisis. (Big needle, big fun.) (We opted not to do the amnio, especially after our research found no correlation between SUA and Down syndrome specifically.)

Additionally, SUA can lead to intrauterine growth restriction (IUGR. Lots of letters!), where the baby can’t grow well in the womb. My doctor said that if the baby went three weeks without growing, we would deliver the baby as early as 33 weeks. Induced labor, c-sections and premature babies are my three biggest fears for pregnancies, so this is exactly what I wanted to hear. Not.

me with two of my sisters again. not the same two.So every three to four weeks, I got to haul two kids to the hospital, through admitting, to the radiology office. Wait. Entertain kids. (Okay, to be fair, helpful neighbors did watch them for three of the visits, so I only had to take them half the time. And Ryan came to every ultrasound, so I wasn’t alone.) We’d decided to let the baby’s gender be a surprise—but monthly ultrasounds make that a little more challenging than normal. And then in the last month of pregnancy, I had weekly nonstress tests and amniotic fluid indices (measuring the fluid in the womb via ultrasound), to make sure the baby was okay. I had up to three doctor/hospital appointments a week at the end. Hooray.

Rachel passed every exam, chose not to be an exhibitionist, and ended up being my largest baby to date. I can’t wait to see the insurance charges. (And neither can the hospital, apparently. After waiting five months to bill us for the quad screen that started all this trouble, they’re now claiming that our insurance isn’t paying on charges made six weeks ago and we have to pay it all. Yeah, right. But in addition to the health concerns, we had so much trouble with a new insurance company that it stresses me out thinking about it still.)

Next time: labor and delivery!

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What should you take in a hospital bag?

One of my friends is a couple months away from having her first, and was looking for suggestions for her hospital bag. I tried to pare down my packing list for the hospital before going, and I’m pretty sure I’ll be able to pack lighter this time. If you’re wondering what to take to the hospital, here’s my list, with “BTDT” comments (“been there, done that”) in square brackets.

For L&D

  • Pillows [Meh; hospitals have pillows. Guess I’m not picky.]
  • Tennis ball for back massage during labor [Uh, no. Didn’t take it; wouldn’t have used it.]
  • Slippers, warm socks, robe [It was February; you might still want the robe and slippers in the summer though.]
  • Gum, snacks and hard candy [Meh]
  • Water bottle [The hospital provided one. Two, actually. And they wouldn’t let me drink during labor. Ice chips. Yum.]
  • Change/singles for vending machines [Oh yeah.]
  • Hair brush and hair ties [Definitely.]
  • Makeup (for pictures!) [Didn’t take pictures in the delivery room, but we did later.]
  • Camera [Ditto.]
  • Cell phone/phone card [Of course.]
  • Baby book to get baby feet stamped with ink! [The hospital gave me a sheet with footprints.]
  • Baby name book [If you’re open to last-minute choices and changes.]

Add to the list: any birthing/coaching materials you need, insurance card (duh).

Toiletries
You know, the bathroom supplies you’d take anywhere else.

  • Nail clippers [. . . for hangnails? What on earth?]
  • Contact lens case, solution, glasses, toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, deodorant
  • Shampoo, conditioner, soap, dark colored towel [I couldn’t get out of bed long enough to shower due to complications, but I think that hospitals tend to have these things. The dark-colored towel was to make sure it didn’t get mixed up with the hospital’s.]
  • Lotion, baby oil [I think I might have used them; it was winter.]
  • Nice SOFT toilet paper [Hospitals have TP, but I’m not picky.]
  • Hairdryer [Meh]
  • Large pads [Keep these at home; the hospital provided plenty.]
  • Nursing pads [Probably not necessary in the hospital, but nice to have just in case.]
  • Pillow with pillowcase other than white [So you don’t get it mixed up with hospital pillows.]
  • Burp cloths [Never used.]
  • Baby wipes [The hospital provided wipes and diapers.]
  • Card games and entertainment [We watched TV and looked at Hayden.]

Going home

  • Outfit for me to wear home [Duh.]
  • Nursing bra, underwear
  • Dermaplast (skin numbing spray) and Tucks pads [I’d keep those at home.]
  • Outfit for baby to wear home including hat, onesie, socks/booties, and blanket [Depends on the weather, of course. You don’t have to worry about any other clothes; the hospital provides onesies, hats and blankets while you’re in there. And they gave us the hat.]
  • Car seat [Can’t leave the hospital without one!]

Now, for a lot of these things, the hospital provided (lots of) them. This will, of course, vary, and yes, I suppose I did eventually pay for most of them in one way or another. However, I did look at my hospital bills and they didn’t charge me per baby wipe and sanitary napkin—but some hospitals do nitpick like that.

So, what could you not live without in the hospital?